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Table of Contents
A Life Coaching Self Coaching Guide 4
Coaching 6
Starting the journey 9
Just Do It 10
Confrontation 12
Action 14
Review 16
Lets get started 19
A reflection on Life 22
Review your findings 22
Enjoyment in Life 23
What can you change? 23
Know thyself 24
Review your Life aim 24
Take action 24
The future 25
The detail 25
Tackling your thoughts 26
Review you Life aim 26
Start 27
Are we there yet? 27
Help 27
List completed actions 28
Set backs 28
Success 28
A review 29
Goal Model Overview 30
Flow Chart 31
Life Coaching Multimedia CD 32
Coaching & the individual
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Self Coaching
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Mentored Life Coaching
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Coaching actions
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Main components of Life Coaching
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Understanding your self
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Confrontation 36
Know the solution 36
The future 36
Action plans 36
Review processes 37
Satisfactory Completion 37
Key attributes 37
COACHING EDUCATION GUIDE
Congratulations on choosing A Life Coaching as your resource to help achieve your goals and aims. We are confident that together we can achieve your desires, while also gaining the skills to further improve yourself in the future.
Many individuals see life as a series of events which they control, create or avoid in an effort to achieve their personal desires. We are all automatically programmed through many years of evolution to seek and live a fulfilled life by our own definition. The achievement of your goals and aims will be the happiest and most fulfilling periods of your life, this is especially true of those outcomes which expand your self worth.
By self worth I refer to the feelings you have about yourself. These may be feelings of great happiness, joy, fulfillment, or they could be resentment, disappointment or regret. Naturally we all seek the positive elements, the achievement of goals are destined to provide these positive feelings. So linking the two together, i.e. achievement of goals and a positive increase in self worth, provides us a means to generate positive outcomes in our lives. Some may say we are destined to lead the lives we have been given to live, we believe we are destined to live the lives we choose to live. This philosophy is paramount to achieving positive outcomes, it is with your actions that your destiny is developed. This ultimately makes YOU responsible for the path you take in life.
By having a thorough understanding of yourself you can achieve anything you put your mind too. You will know your limitations, your likes and dislikes, your capabilities and your faults, this powerful information gives us an edge to be the best we can be. But, learning how to use this information for maximum benefit is not typically taught to us, it is a skill we develop over time from our surroundings. Some individuals grow up in an environment which may provide an excellent resource to gain the skills required, while others may be completely unaware of the skills of achieving your dreams and how to utilize them.
Rest assured, by the time you have completed this Life Coaching guide, you will know this important information and a great deal more. We have focused on making this a learning process as we believe life is a learning process, we go through each day picking up bits of useful and some useless information, our minds store and process this information in a way similar to how a computer will store this information, the difference with humans is our ability to interpret the information and thereby gain great use from the source. By seeing your life as a long learning process your perception of the environment and surroundings becomes your teacher, your brain will develop a response mechanism to help define paths and directions to achieve goals in the quickest and easiest ways possible.
We must also recognize that we are not perfect and that set backs or problems do naturally occur. Remember, if life is a learning process, then even problems are part of the learning process and all this information provides us with skills for continued improvement. The choices you make in life will ultimately lead you to live the way you want to live, sometimes we either make wrong choices, or we make poor choices not understanding the consequences, this is normal too and also provides us with useful information. Using our principles you are able to evaluate your personal requirements, develop an action plan, a review process, implement the required actions and review outcomes all targeted at achieving your goal or goals.
In Coaching a professional will help you to identify key perceptions in your life by carefully listening to your expression of current self, by identifying specific body language and by asking some targeted questions to help initiate the exploration of self.
Here are some targeted questions which may help you start this journey:
The following pages will focus on the key elements to successful Self Coaching.
Once you have read through this material and viewed the Multi Media Video's ,you are ready to start your Self Coaching pro forma guide material.
The Self Life Coaching reading material will set a skill basis from which to launch into the Pro forma worksheets. These work sheets are a series of inner discovery, goal creation, action development, reviewing processes and implementation steps to help take you through a professional process which is targeted at goal achievement.
The Pro forma worksheets require diligent completion and commitment. It is through this process that you will achieve your desires. The reading material will help you to understand the processes being applied, and will help you with the style of thinking required to follow the pro forma worksheet process properly.
Only start on the pro forma worksheets when you have completed the reading material and the PC based multi media training.
Coaching
Coaching is the relationship between an individual looking to achieve a measurable aspect and the mentor who will guide, encourage and reinforce the actions required to meet the aspect being sought.
Coaching has traditionally been used in the sports industry and is a critical element to most successful and professional sports people. Another side of coaching is delivered everyday by many individuals on aspects of life outside of sport. This could be coaching from parents on school studies, or ethics. It can include coaching conducted by managers to their staff, or even the coaching being carried out by caring friends.
Coaching is intended to perform a few important steps, firstly it is aimed a benefiting the individual looking for a specific achievement by have a greater pool of knowledge and experience from which to draw information. Coaching will also aim to reduce the possible time it would take to achieve the goal, plus it can be used to avoid or overcome obstacles, and lastly, coaching is aimed at supporting and encouraging the individual so that motivation, drive and focus is maintained.
Most of us know a good coach in some form or another, and all of us have seen the incredible achievements made by sporting people who have excellent coaches available to them. Other less know successes world wide who have benefited from coaches also include; industry leaders, high ranking politicians, professional actors, entertainers, wealthy self made successes, respectable community leaders, caring parents, career minded professionals, business owners, high achieving students and many more.
Does normal coaching differ from this modality of Life Coaching? We believe not. Life Coaching provides an individual with all the same benefits of other coaching styles, and, can focus on a broader field of activities, goals, aims and objectives. Life Coaching can accomplish this by using tried and tested coaching methods which are targeted at the individuals psychology and need for success. Coaching by A Life Coaching is action oriented and very supportive.
At this stage it is necessary to ask the question Why use a Coach? The major reason is to maximize the chances of success and minimize the chances of failure. Using a Life Coach will provide you an unbiased knowledge base and a skill level developed to help individuals move forward in the creation of their life goals. This knowledge is leveraged to drive the individual through to achievement in an appropriate time frame with support and compassion. The exercise of achieving your goal becomes a less painful path with someone available to lend a hand and in most cases the time required to achieve the objective can be shortened significantly.
The reason to use a life coach or life coaching modality will be different for each individual. Some may need it as a way to reinforce time priorities, others may need help to determine the most suitable course of action for them, while others require positive and unbiased support and nurturing to keep them motivated and focused. By completing the exercises in this guide you will begin to have a better understand of your personal traits and may also begin to better understand why you chose to use a Life Coaching modality.
Which ever reason you fall under, coaching by its essence is targeted at getting the individual to achieve their best in the goals they seek. By achieving your best you receive a great boost to your confidence which carries through your life and continues to improve other aspects in your surroundings.
Using Coaching can be seen as a professional decision. You personally value the goal you are trying to achieve as being significantly important and warrants some investment other than your personal time. At A Life Coaching we believe this investment should extend beyond your immediate objective. The A Life Coaching approach aims to provide you with a learning experience which can be applied whenever required. By learning skills to help you be your best, and to help achieve your goals you will have a greater level of confidence and skill. As a learning exercise the material contained in this manual can be used time and time again. Through this learning experience you will retain key elements which will help with your goal achievements.
Key to accomplishing any task is having an implementation approach. In this manual you will be guided through a Life Coaching process which require the implementation of key steps / actions. This includes implementing the actions you commit to in the time frames you decide. Failure to implement will ultimately lead to the failure of your goals. Meeting your committed time frames and steps will be crucial.
As a dedicated goal focused individual who has taken the step to invest in this A Life Coaching support exercise, how could you not implement your actions? Unfortunately we all know life is not that straight forward. There will be hurdles, time issues, possible family matters which stop you from implementing the actions required. This is normal in everyones life and should never be seen as an escape or excuse to stop the forward progression of the life goal or aim. In the material enclosed we cover how to review your implementation and how to react and handle times when implementation as committed has not be completed.
Implementation is important in that it is a measurable step in the goal achievement path. It is easy to see where a particular step has failed if the implementation of a particular action was not completed. Keeping an implementation focus mentality will be critical to your success. Be diligent on all the actions you commit to and see implementation of those actins as paramount, no matter how difficult or time consuming they may be. I can guarantee the way to failure is to stop implementation.
Regardless of the size, complexity or importance of the tasks we define during the exercise, if you think this task is small or simple and does not really need to be completed then you will be tempting failure. Consider each task important and necessary to be completed.
STARTING THE JOURNEY
Knowing yourself is a great way to help with achieving your aims. By having a thorough understanding of where you want to be, what brings you happiness or what gives you disappointment you can quickly formulate a plan to help convert sadness to joy, or introduce changes in your life which bring happiness. Sometimes we may think of elements in our life which we think are truly important, but when we do some deep analysis we can find that these may not necessarily bring us the happiness we seek.
During the exercises in this guide you will be taken through a series of questions which will help you better define the items in your life which provide happiness, those which dont and how to identify those which can be changed to help you with the focused achievement of your goal.
By committing to the achievement of your happiness through a thorough analysis of yourself you subconsciously commit greater desire and drive to the goal. You will instinctively know that the achievement of your goal will be a critical need to you and you will therefore be prepared to undergo the transformation required and implement the actions which will get you to where you want to be.
But, should you change, or should you stay the same? After your personal review you will have a choice to make, and only you can really answer this important question. From a coaching perspective we encourage you to choose the path which will make you the best you can be, this path will provide you with the answer.
The remaining review of your personal circumstances is to identify whether starting on a journey to change your self through the achievement of a goal is possible now, or, needs to wait for a more suitable time. As an example; if you decide to purchase three investment properties in the next two years as your Life Coaching goal, and you plan to have a six month overseas vacation during the next two years, but you know that your limited budget which would not cover the costs for both activities. Then clearly the time to start the achievement exercise for this goal, or the time to take a six month holiday is not correct and you will need to personally evaluate your choices.
When you undertake a Life Coaching process you must start with a positive image of achievement in your mind which is clear and uninterrupted. If you mask possible limitations which you clearly know could affect the achievement then you are doing a great injustice to your self.
You are far better off giving yourself every possible chance to succeed, and in particular, choosing the best time for success is an important element. Once you have set a time frame which is unhindered you can effectively start your journey without interruption.
Although some small interruptions are part of our normal daily lives, we should allow for these in our time line, having a degree of flexibility imbeds reality to your plan and setting achievable realistic actions and outcomes during this considered time will make the life coaching journey more realistic and hopefully a enjoyable.
JUST DO IT
Ironically, most people do not achieve their dreams because they are too busy living their day to day life to commit to the actions needed. Many times we hear reasons such as; too busy, too tired, no confidence frightened to change or just did not get around to it. These seem like fair and true to life aspects, but the reality is, if we truly dream to achieve a goal or aim, then it takes a certain level of priority in our lives. We cannot allow other aspects of our life stop us from achieving these goals.
The best and simplest way to get something done is to just do it. Unfortunately procrastination is an inbuilt human fault which has had millions of years of evolution to perfect itself. You could imagine primitive man saying to himself, I wont go hunting today because the thought of tackling a wooly mammoth is a bit much to handle, I guess I would probably think the same thought. So we must fight procrastination, because like us, the primitive man would eventually need to hunt for food or he would starve to death.
So how do we fend off millions of years of evolution and stop other aspects of our life from coming between us and our dreams. The only way is to start and take the necessary steps, once started you will find another key human attribute completing tasks which we see as important to our happiness takes over and we will continue to drive each action through to completion.
So a key element is just starting the journey. We do this by committing to dates, having a thorough plan which we developed and which we have great confidence in. The starting process also provides us with reason to celebrate as we have clearly taken the step we have committed to.
The driving force behind a commitment to start is often the images we give ourselves of how our feeling would be if we had completed and successfully achieved the goal we set out to achieve. These feelings will mostly be very positive, but, may often fade away when we are distracted by the rest of lifes little dilemmas. We need to set these images in concrete so that we can reflect on how we feel, how life will be and what would change if the goal had been reached.
We do this in our Coaching guide through formulating a future letter which you will write to yourself. This will provide you a detailed view of your life after the achievement of your goal. Not just a visual image or a peripheral view of what life would be like. In this letter we need deep feelings explored, consider what some of the hurdles getting there were and how you overcome them, you may also consider a first attempt failure and a second attempt success. It is entirely up to you to determine how your future evolves and during the exercises you will get the opportunity to fulfill your future on paper.
Imagine how your subconscious will feel when you see this letter and store it in your memory, you will not only have your magnet images of the future with your achieved goal, but you will also subconsciously feel the future more deeply than what you may have felt previously. The driving motivation this provides makes it a key element of the Coaching experience.
Many of the elements of this guide are focused on maintaining your motivation to start, to complete and to celebrate your achievements. Motivation is the driving force behind your actions. Most individuals are motivated by different factors, what may motivate you may not motivate another and vice versa. The Coaching process motivates you through positive reinforcement, support, emotional feelings and future perspectives.
Along the steps to achievement you may often see opportunities to celebrate the achievement of milestones. It is important to consider these mile stones important and to take the time and pursue the action of celebration. The ability to celebrate your actions will provide you with positive reinforcement. Leading you onto the next viable reason to celebrate, thereby creating an environment where action accomplishment leads to celebration which leads to further action accomplishment etc through to the total achievement of the goal. There is no better motivator than continued success in your endeavors.
During this process we should clarify that the steps you take and the approach you undertake should not be overly complex. Complex tasks are often avoided, once again this is our human nature in play, and this could lead to failure. In the development of action plans and outcomes, we must always try to Keep It Simple.
The common phrase KIS, is important to us because we will feel more able to complete simple tasks that complex ones. In some cases complex tasks may be simplified by breaking them up into smaller components.
By having a keep it simple KIS approach we also give ourselves a higher level of expectation that a task can and will be completed. When we have a high confidence level, we commit to undertaking the action knowing that its completion will bring us closer to the ultimate goal.
During the exercises we will encounter hurdles as previously discussed, try to anticipate those hurdles in an effort to modify an action and simplify it. Or construct the action in a way to overcome considered hurdles.
CONFRONTATION
Is your cup half empty or half full? This style of thinking relates to your perspective on life. A half cup empty person may consider the loss of the first half and feel this loss as a negative aspect, whereas a half cup full person would see the joy in still having a half cup yet to be consumed and feels positive.
The reasons are quiet clear, you are and become what you think. Your thinking predisposes you to actions and emotions which will drive certain outcomes. When your thinking is aligned with your goals, with a good level of self respect, then your conscious and subconscious actions will fulfill the goal you are striving for.
Maintaining a positive thinking mode can be difficult.
The aim for any positive thinking person is to eliminate negative thinking> This is accomplished by recognizing your thoughts, being aware of negativity and disregard those negative thoughts as quickly as possible. You will find many unwanted thoughts creeping up when you may least expect it. But with a strong level of positive thinking and being on alert, disregarding the negative thoughts can become easier with practice.
Positive thinking is and has always been regarded as the best approach to tackling lifes challenges. We will refer to this as either failure or success thinking. A coaching principle applied world over is to see your self as a success in your chosen objective, as an example some sports people regularly imagine themselves holding the winners cup at the end of a race. This impression of success which is branded in your brain will lead you to avoid issues, implement life changes and fulfill precursors to completing actions.
By precursors, we mean the elements which may need to occur before a particular action can be started. For example, an individual looking to have a life change from corporate life to a simpler less stressed employment option may have reduced his expenses some time ago in a way to more easily accommodate his new lifestyle in anticipation of a change or his new goal. The precursor was worked on before the action of leaving the current employment took place.
Set in your mind a picture of the successful outcome from the start. Do not set yourself up for failure by thinking the goal is unattainable. We can call this a psychology of success.
Take
the time and effort to understand your thought patterns, by understanding
what may frustrate you, or, your limitations will help you in developing an
action plan which avoids situations you already know may be too difficult to
complete.
But what if you cannot change the activity and you need to soldier on
through the difficult task?
In this case we suggest you review changing your thought patterns from negative feelings towards this area to positive ones. The best way to achieve this is by firstly recognizing that this particular task will create anticipatory negative feelings, i.e. initial feelings of discomfort which happen before the full impact of regret and avoidance set in. It is at this stage that you should stop the ANTS Anticipatory Negative Thoughts and change your thinking to positive can do feelings.
In the same way that your subconscious starts the anticipatory feeling, you can self talk in positive speak providing yourself with views of confidence and successful completion.
Having the correct frame of mind is paramount to your success, throughout the cycle of life coaching there are a number of key personal attributes which will enhance the journey and will also help you with the fulfillment of your plans. Some of these may seem to be common sense. But, a mind with these traits is not always easily achieved.
As you go through the Pro Forma Work sheets to implement your Self Life Coaching prepare yourself for hard and diligent work. Remove any laziness or procrastination thoughts and adopt an ethic of completing each task with no excuses.
Do not see any delays or possible failures as any more than part of the journey. That is, do not stop these from achieving your ultimate outcome. The A Life Coaching process will take you through these issues as normal occurrences and we will detail how to move on regardless.
Following the steps in the pro forma exercise sheets will mentally prepare you to confront feelings which may result in failure and turn them into positive successful feelings which drive you forwards.
ACTION
Starting your journey is as important as achieving your desired outcome. The initial steps will cement a potential life long ambition, or a dream once imagined unreachable. Before you start the journey of completing the steps to achieving the desired outcome, consider any peripheral matters which may make the achievement difficult or impossible. Review any external factors that may need to occur which are outside of your control and ensure they have been completed or will be completed.
Some may say adopting a Life Coaching model may be similar to building a house. The foundations must be completed before the building process can commence, then the walls can be constructed once the frame is assembled, and so on. Review your personal circumstances to ensure you give yourself the best possible chance of success. Set your foundations before you start.
Some of the considerations may include :
Once you are satisfied the time you have chosen to start the journey is ideal the next personal positioning involves commitment.
Similar to drive, ambition and focus, commitment to your endeavors is a personal facet you will instill to help with overall exercise. When reviewing your commitment to the exercise you may be best to see it in smaller steps rather than a commitment to an entire project. By breaking it down into small steps we ensure our normal lives will not stop us from achieving the goal. Reality dictates our lives continue each day with many interruptions, some good and some bad, many of which are totally unrelated to the achievement of the goal. These include work, family, health matters etc.
We are trying to align ourselves with a path that will achieve the goal regardless of what life throws our way. So, let us look at our commitment in small steps from a commitment to start, a commitment to complete action 1, a commitment to complete the next action, through to a commitment to celebrate the achievement of miles stones. This in conjunction with a commitment to the entire endeavor is the best way to set you up for success. Why is it that smaller commitments are an important part of the overall process?
Our mental ability to digest smaller promises to ourselves helps us maintain the drive we need. By making a commitment to yourself and achieving the commitment, gives a sense of accomplishment. The feeling of accomplishment will occur more often with small steps and will also boost confidence. It thereby becomes a perpetuating cycle which creates positive thinking from itself until the end and achievement.
Maybe your task involves the participation or support of others. This is where being a visionary who breeds positive feelings is important. In this situation, you need to have a level of strength of purpose which can be easily understood and accepted by those who are going to be involved. You should expect that other individuals may not share your enthusiasm, or drive, this is only natural. Your task is to have them accept your goal as a co-operative exercise and for them to have a good understanding of the steps which will be required to achieve the desired outcome and what their specific involvement will be.
Strength of commitment and of purpose is a key attribute of success. Completing actions in a positive frame of mind will be beneficial to you and any others you have involved.
REVIEW
Reviews can be divided into two sections, the first being a review of your personality findings and your lifes aim. And second being a review of the actions and the exercises you are completing to achieve the lifes aim. The importance of reviews cannot be underestimated as they are critical to success. Many times we only really determine an underlying item when we review our initial thoughts. Some times, our thinking predisposes us to conscious thinking only. Then after a thorough review our thinking starts to combine both conscious and sub conscious elements. This is where our thinking is more in tune with our true feeling, our real capabilities and an acceptance of our true limitations.
By reviewing your personality traits and your lifes aim you gain a greater understanding of your self. You may also find that what you had originally written down may need to change. That is OK, and would be considered a good outcome as the original information could result in the achievement of an aim which does not really provide you with what you had expected. In some cases a number of reviews may be utilised to drill through layers of thinking which have been developed through years of exposure to external influences.
You may have already seen or read the example of the Doctor who after many years of study and a few years of practice was desperately unhappy only to realize he became a doctor due to the influence of his parents and fulfilled that life aim only to satisfy the wants of his parents rather than his own. These situations occur every day all around us. We see the aim of A Life Coaching to help you identify and create true and lasting happiness, not to achieve the goals and wants of other individuals.
A thorough and ongoing review process of your likes and dislikes will achieve the identification of components in your life which bring lasting happiness. This will help in the development and completing of your lifes aim. The enclosed pro forma material will take you through these steps initially and will follow through to reviewing each action and step so as to ensure progress and successful achievement.
Time framing is a term often used in Life Coaching and describes the breaking down of activity into manageable time periods and the selection of the actual dates / times for the particular action. Essentially it is diarizing the activity so that the individual; knows exactly when to start an action, how long the completion of that action will take and when the action is expected to be completed.
By breaking down the tasks, we are able to review each step closely for its necessity and effectiveness as part of the overall exercise. Plus we are able to better review any unexpected inability to complete the task.
The review process should not only include a review of the time frames, but also a review of the actual step and actions within. We must consider that along the path to completing a Coaching exercise there may be necessary changes to be made, or time frames to change. The review process keeps us on track and enables us to stay one step ahead of any potential problems.
Within the pro forma work sheets we have included a thorough review process to achieve this. There will be situations where the review process may change an action, or introduce a new step which was previously unforeseen. By having a review process in place we are able to reflect on how far we have come in achieving the ultimate goal, and also how long is remaining and what the next steps are to achieving it.
You will find that with proper planning and diligence when completing the pro forma work sheets that the review process for a particular action will result in that action having been successfully completed. As mentioned previously, if the completed task is a milestone, take the time to celebrate its completion. This celebration provides the emotional comfort and support to help keep you motivated and focused to move forward.
Having achieved and completed an action results in the introduction and
start of the next action. Apply the same thinking processes on this new task
and look forward to a review of its process either during the task or at the
end of the task.
We encourage ongoing reviews throughout, it is at the discretion of each
individual to decide when to implement a review, but, we strongly suggest
against a review at the very end of the exercise. It is in the review
process that you may learn the most about yourself or the goal you are
seeking and this can be used as useful information at any time.
What if you are unsuccessful and are facing failure. Life Coaching does not accept failure as an option and we would see this as just another component to the overall exercise which needs to be reviewed and for a new action or set of actions to be fulfilled after having completed the review. When you have experienced a failure, do not fall into what we will call failure syndrome. This is the negative thinking which follows and will reduce your confidence level and possibly your commitment to move forward.
Positive thinking again will stop you falling into this trap. To help you overcome the failure and develop new actions you should try to anticipate a hurdle, or new hurdles and develop a solution which resolves the hurdle.
Never develop an action plan which you know will have a hurdle or a problem in it. Thinking Ill cross that bridge when I get to it. This would be a futile exercise as you will not know how to resolve the issue any better then, than you do now.
It is best if you take the time initially to determine how you will resolve or overcome a potential problem. This will give you greater confidence throughout the process. You could imagine a thinking process which could include a great deal of hard work and fulfillment having a negative slant knowing that a hurdle which does not have a solution is just around the corner. This would be unsatisfactory.
A Coach will not recommend, but may direct you in a different path to your current thinking or steer you into the path with some different considerations which may overcome the problem.
With a review process we are able to reflect on our achievements, determine where we may have failed, help define and develop new solutions, or, it can be a means of giving ourselves a pat on the back for having successfully completed what we set out to do.
We start to realize that most successful individuals combine their positive thinking with a continual reflection on their progress, basically a review process. This is one of the main reasons that their success is evident, as it is in the review process that they become the best they can be and learn from each experience. This growing knowledge builds upon itself and is used in life for other tasks, goals or ambitions when ever required.
Getting to the end of the journey is just as important as the journey itself. The lessons you will learn, the reflection on the actions and on yourself are all key elements. By enjoying the journey and having an effective means to review it will provide you with Self Coaching skills.
If and when you encounter problems, remember that these are part of the journey and that they may make life a little more interesting. Yes, we would all prefer to avoid any problems and especially those which we have already anticipated. But the reality of life dictates that not everything will run smoothly. Getting to the end is just one of many milestones in between the overall journey. By seeing your progress in this manner you are encouraged to implement regular reviews rather than a singular review at the end.
Lets Get Started.
You may be wandering when to start the actual exercise process of getting to know yourself, defining and establishing your objective, reviewing your findings, developing your life aim or better defining one already in mind, taking action, and maintaining the drive to fulfill all the requirements.
Some of the activities a Coach implements during an individuals analysis and the development/review process can be easily implemented by individuals keen to Self Coach. The approach can be summarized into the four Ps:
Process
Precision
Performance
Practice
Starting with the process elements, we recognize that Coaching is a mode of getting people to be the best they can be through a formal set of procedures and steps which must be adhered to. The formal process used by A Life Coaching is included in the pro forma work sheets and should not be circumvented to save time or activity. A Coach fulfills and completes these steps stringently. A person who has elected to Self Coach should take this same approach, do not try to create short cuts or avoid steps.
Some of the other key elements of following a process is also having the ability to manage the process, this would include time management, effective maintenance of documentation and follow up. These traits are important as they ensure you do not haplessly wander through the process.
Keeping a diary of events and commitments is an excellent way to follow and complete a formal process, having TO DO lists can keep you focused and will also help with time management. Having key motivational words around you is also another great way to keep you focused on the process. In some cases it may help to see the entire exercise as a process rather than the achievement of a life aim.
Occasionally emotions may sway you in different ways if you were to see the exercise as a process and in other ways when seen as a life aim. It is difficult to determine which method of thinking will be best for each person as we all differ, but this may be a consideration you can make when looking at the exercise.
As a Life Coach, keeping excellent time management, records management, effective communications and continued motivation is key, at any one time a Coach may be interacting with dozens of individuals. A poorly managed process will not help any of them. You will find with a Professional Life Coach, much of the work being completed with an individual will be done after the personal interaction, whether that be email, phone or face to face. It is in this after interaction time that the process is completed.
As with process, precision is also an important aspect. By precision we mean the accuracy with which information is retrieved, how that information is interpreted. The accuracy with which actions are developed, how the individuals motivation is consistently maintained and so on.
It is not possible to have a half hearted approach with someones life aim. Ultimately, a Life Coach will ensure that what is conducted in the way of a personal review, through to celebrating the completion, is completed in as accurate style as possible.
How does someone know if the interpretation of the information, or, the creation of a specific task is completely accurate. Life Coaching does not guarantee outcomes or the future, however, the four Ps together will alleviate the problems relating to the lack of precision. The Life Coaching model has been designed to separate fact from fiction and to detail the important questions and answers. As a Self Coaching model you should consider the same aspects.
In some cases it may be suitable to separate your Life Coaching self from your Life Aim self. One personality applying the steps and process diligently, while the other personality completing the assigned tasks and reporting to the Life Coach. The way in which you tackle the Life Coaching is up to you and these suggestions may suite some individuals and others not. You will easily identify how you are going to tackle this exercise when you start to complete the pro forma exercises as you will gain a good understanding of your self.
In conjunction with process and precision, performance is the next Life Coaching element you should include in your tool kit. By performance we describe the ability to maintain a high output level, or at a minimum a level of work ethic which dictates that you start and complete the tasks you develop. Being a coach involves being a leverage to ensure the coached individual keeps to his or her commitment. This is typically one of the more difficult tasks as life is full of many interruptions and the coach is only interested in one objective.
It may seem harsh sometimes to have someone on your back forcing you to do what was expected, but, this type of focus is what has led many sporting, business or professional individuals to be the best they can be.
Do you have the ability to push yourself and maintain a high level of performance? Yes you do. Do not question your abilities. Having chosen a life aim and having incorporated a Life Coaching modality to help fulfill the aim is testament to your performance focus. Remember to celebrate the achievement of milestones regularly, even if its a self acknowledgment that you are doing what you set out to do. These and all the other positive reinforcement exercises we previously covered will help maintain your performance.
What about when your performance starts to wane? See this as another step in the process and perhaps even try to anticipate when your performance will wane during the development phase of the actions. You know yourself best and will have an expectation of how much you can accomplish before you need either a mental and or physical break. Experienced Life Coaches have developed a thorough understanding of how long an individual can continue fulfilling actions until they need a break, and although most individuals will differ, during the getting to know you stage a perspective of this time frame is captured.
By managing your personal performance you gain the skill to optimize time frames in the planning process. As an example, an individual with a life aim to start a small business may develop an action to complete a marketing plan within a month. Only to find the marketing plan was completed in one week. Through this experience you may go over forward actions and optimize their time frame if you feel comfortable with the work necessary to complete the task. This style of thinking when completing the pro forma exercises for your life aim will ensure a successful outcome.
The final P we cover is practice. As with any task, practice will enhance the individuals ability to follow process, be precise in the fulfillment of tasks and maintain a high performance level. Practice with your review process and with your thinking style will flow from this current Life Coaching exercise into other areas of your life. The benefits are thereby multiplied leading to a greater level of happiness and fulfillment. You will find the methodology adopted within this package is not onerous and can be easily followed by any individual. The hardest part is maintaining this new knowledge and perhaps an invigorated positive personality.
Many individual can quickly fall back into the groove of their previous selves and perhaps find that they are no longer experiencing the benefits of a fulfilled life.
While this package can be used time and time again, it is up to the individual to determine when to bring out the tool kit and implement it. Through practice you can stop yourself falling back into the groove and you may develop skills which are life long and may result in no longer requiring to bring out this guide.
Before getting started with the pro forma exercise sheets it is a great idea to familiarize your self with each task. The tasks are divided into the following sets :
I will summaries each step here to help you gain an insight into what is to come and hopefully prepare you for the actions and an opportunity to anticipate (as previously reviewed) some items worth considering.
A reflection on Life
In
this first and very important step we start the process of getting to know
ourselves a little better. Here we list 20 items in your life which
you are not completely happy with. The issues or points you write down
should cover the following parts of your life :
Relationship
Career Family
Health Wealth Personal
Friends Habits Other
Once the list is completed, rank each item for its level of dissatisfaction the particular item provides to you. The rankings are from 1 to 10 where 1 is a low rating and 10 being the highest rating i.e. the greatest dissatisfaction.
By starting to understand the parts of our life which we are most unhappy with, we can start to develop a plan to improve this area.
Review your findings
We would like to resolve every issue in life, although sometimes this could take a lifetime to complete. We will endeavor to refine our list and gain a deeper understanding of ourselves. If you have a Life Aim in mind, we encourage you to proceed through these steps regardless, as they will help you better understand why you have initiated this life aim, and in some cases you may even consider a change or a refinement to the Life aim you were considering.
This may seem extraordinary at this stage. You may have a fixed idea in your mind and you would like to proceed with this goal or aim, regardless of other areas of your life and whether they relate to satisfaction or not. Life Coaching has developed from a broad base of knowledge, some of which has identified the aims we have in life may not be a true or complete reflection of what we REALLY want, or what we REALLY need to do to move forward. An example of this in todays society is a fixation on the need for wealth, but, not just normal wealth, society has given us a perception that anything short of extreme wealth is to some unsatisfactory. So many individuals focus their goals and aims on this area, only to find they may still lead an unhappy life.
We will try to break beyond the barriers set by years of societys perception and move into areas in your life where we can make great inroads. Having said this, if you have considered your life and your true goal or aim is wealth, or wealth related. This is a worthy area and with this guide you can develop a plan to move you forward.
Continuing on from your review we choose and list 6 items from the previous list which have been ranked 8 or higher. With this list you will provide a detailed description of why, how and when these issues arise. Describing also how you feel when these issues are active.
Enjoyment in Life
In contrast to
the initial step we now review those parts of your life which bring you true
happiness. Here we list 12 items which bring you true happiness and
joy. These
items should once again
cover the following parts of your life:
Relationship Career Family
Health Wealth Personal
Friends Habits Other
Once the list is completed, you will rank each item for the level of satisfaction this particular item provides. The rankings are from 1 to 10 where 1 is a low rating and 10 being the highest rating i.e. the greatest satisfaction.
Reviewing your findings
While reading this material we introduced you to the concept of continual review. This section is part of that methodology to ensure we do not misinterpret our communication, plus, allowing us to better determine our likes and dislikes.
From the list above you will be asked to choose and list 6 items which have been ranked 8 or higher. With this list you provide a detailed description of why, how and when these items exist. Describing also how you feel when these issues are active.
What can you change?
After
detailing and reviewing both the items in your life which bring you
dissatisfaction and satisfaction we now carefully decide on a refined list
of eight items which you can change and which will bring happiness at a
satisfaction level greater that eight.
We take this step to determine the difference between those items in your life which can be changed at this stage, and those which cannot. This could take into consideration your family situation, health, financial position, age or other matters you may have considered. The aim of this exercise is to choose areas where change is possible. Trying to change an area which is not possible is a futile exercise which may stop you from moving forward in other life areas. Sometimes, changing an area you do not want to change at this time may be inappropriate and will be a consideration for another time.
It is important to be very honest with yourself in this process. The list of eight items will be created as a composite of the items you are dissatisfied with and those items you are satisfied with. Please note it is not important to labor over getting an equal number of changeable items from each list, it is however important to identify items which can be changed and which you consciously rate as the most appropriate 8 items for changing.
Know thyself
While the information gathered thus far is very thorough and covers many aspect of your life, we must not take on a large number of life goal changes at once. The ability to effectively complete and handle this level of change may be difficult.
We will now rank the Change Items from the previous page from 1 to 10, 1 being the least important to 10 being the most important to you at this stage. From this exercise we will then determine the 3 most important life aims you would like to focus on initially. Ranking in this area may take time and thinking. Over time, you may want to work on all 6 items, but initially we will focus down to 3 and implement actions for the major item.
After having ranked and selected the 3 new life goals, we will commence with the first goal and take you through a detailed process of developing and implementing the change actions to achieve the goal outcome. With continual reviews to ensure we are heading in the right direction.
Review your Life aim
We now move to reviewing each of the three Life aims. Review the first Life Aim and determine at which level you are currently dealing with the progress of this life aim.
It is important to establish what stage of achievement you are currently at with this Life Aim as this will help us establish an accurate action plan.
We do this by determining
the level from the list below:
Not yet started
Have attempted but did not finish
Have attempted and failed to achieve
Currently completing this life aim
I have achieved this life aim and am now in a maintenance mode
From your selection above you will need to describe the current state of this life aim.
Take action
Now we start to develop the actions you will commit to undertake. We do this by creating a list of eight genuine actions which you believe are achievable and will result in the successful life aim outcome.
After detailing each item, you are required to describe in detail how you can fulfill each action.
The action detail will describe what you plan to do, how you will do it and how it relates to the achievement of the life aim. There will be more detail required on these in future steps.
In this section you may feel that your experience or knowledge level is not appropriate to develop the actions required for your life aim. Therefore an action will be to Gain the experience or knowledge level to understand the requirements which will result in the achievement of the chosen life aim. This could include reading or researching material on the topic, talking to friends, colleagues, or to other individuals who have already achieved the aim. You may want to email a Life Coach for a review.
By taking responsibility for developing the actions, you begin to gain an awareness of the requirements leading to an effective solution.
The future
Here we try to foresee our future in an ideal fashion. Set a date in the future where you will expect the successful accomplishment of the life aim.
You will write an imaginary letter from 3 months past the date above. The letter to be written to yourself will need to detail:
· how you feel the changes in your life have been fulfilled,
· how you life has changed,
· think of any hurdles you may have encountered and how you overcame them.
· detail the feeling of success which come with the accomplishment of the life aim,
· and try to describe your journey to get there.
This is a very powerful tool which is useful to reflect back on and read during the implementation process. It also provides an excellent source of motivation.
The detail
We have thoroughly established an understanding of your needs or wants, your potential limitations or hurdles and we have set a future perspective of the achievement of the Life Aim. With this knowledge we can now get started on defining the actions required. This detail will be based on the 8 actions you have selected and detailed previously as most appropriate to achieving the life aim. In this step we have a little more hard work as we need to complete a more thorough detail for each of the eight actions.
This will include:
· Detailed Description of each action
· Expected start and completion dates
· Measure of success : detail how you will measure the successful achievement of this action.
· A list of possible hurdles or any expected problems
· What you plan as achievement recognition. I.e. How will you celebrate the achievement of each action
The time you take initially to develop the actions is an investment in the foundations of your plan. This foundation will make progress possible in an affective way, and, it may even have you avoid pitfalls which could have stopped the entire journey.
As you will probably now understand, we are doing everything possible in a planned process way to put the probability of success highly in your favor.
Tackling your thoughts
During the action phase you may encounter some personal resistance, this may be due to the difficult nature of achieving the determined life aim, or, due to factors beyond your direct personal control.
To counter these potential disturbances we will develop a suite of Positive Thought Statements (PTS) which you can utilize when completing each action.
Here are some examples :
ACTION : Complete my studies with an average pass score over 85%.
PTS : Having achieved a pass score of greater than 85% will give me greater career choice and more financial independence.
ACTION : Apply for the position in Senior Management and get it.
PTS : I am the best candidate, I have the skills to do the best job and I will be a successful and respected Senior Manager.
Your
task in this section is to list one Positive Thought Statement for each of
the eight actions. Make the statement relate directly to what drives YOU. If
you are driven by wealth, have the statement reflect this, if you are driven
by holidays in exotic location, have the statement reflect this, and so on.
You will know what drives you and perhaps through the initial phases of this
guide, you may have already developed a better understanding of these than
held previously.
Review your Life aim
As previously mentioned a thorough review process is used in the A Life Coaching methodology. By now you may be thinking this is a lot of work to achieve the life aim. It is important to realize that if achievement of the life aim was easy, you would already have achieved it. Yes, there is a requirement for time and effort, but, you must consider the effort worthwhile.
To ensure this worthiness perspective, lets now detail 3 Positive Thought Statements (PTS) covering your Life Aim. It is these three statements which will provide you with the encouragement to put in the effort to achieve the desired life aim.
Using the same skills developed for the Action - Positive Thought Statements, develop statements relating to aim which also articulate what drive YOU.
Start
Finally! Now we actually start. Earlier I covered the importance of setting
foundations. Like building a house we are ensured the structure will resist
the elements and be better built with solid foundations.
You may have already started fulfilling the actions as set previously in
accordance with the expected start dates. If you have not yet started,
select a suitable date from the action lists and use this as a marker point
for the commencement of this Life Aim achievement exercise, then start by
implementing and fulfilling your actions.
You may feel a burning desire to rush into it and get working on your actions, consider everything around you as previously mentioned and JUST DO IT. Do not procrastinate, a true indication of getting straight to work is the fact that you have now set foundations, given careful consideration and may be better prepared for this journey than you have for any other life journey previously.
Are we there yet?
In this section we review our process weekly to identify a number of important factors :
1. Are we still on track?
2. Have we identified anything new we should now resolve?
3. Have we completed planned actions?
4. Have we celebrated milestones?
5. Any new information.
6. Are you managing your feelings?
This
is part of a normal coaching process, where the coach, in this case your
self, will take time to measure the progress. A good coach will always
perform his or her role in a positive supportive environment. Do not be hard
on your self unnecessarily, the work steps here are prepared to help with
most situations and outcomes. Good or bad!
Help
In this section we continue to review your progress?
Are you completing the assigned actions?
Have you identified any impassable road blocks?
Is your confidence in tack and you are getting closer to achieving your ambition?
It is common and natural to call or seek help when required. We now take the
opportunity to list what issues we have and to determine the source from which we
will get the help required to overcome the issue.
Help can come from a variety of areas. Heres a list to review ;
Never give up. Find a way to break through barriers.
List completed actions
Progress is one of the most satisfying feelings you will have during the journey of achieving your Life aims. We take the opportunity to recognize you have successfully completed the actions you planned and that you are closer to achieving your goal each time an action is completed.
Set backs
Here we overview the setback and we detail a plan to invigorate our drive and if required redefine our Life Aim.
We determine set backs as significant situations beyond our control which were not previously considered and may result in a possible redirection of the Life Aim.
Human nature in some circumstances may see a setback as failure resulting in the individual giving up the search and work for life aims. Unfortunately, repeated set backs could result in the individual feeling that the pursuit of life aims or even the pursuit of happiness is not worthwhile.
With our positive, motivated outlook we will never fall into this trap. A mental image that failure is not possible is the best way to keep your focus. Sometimes we need to make small changes, or review our initial thoughts. This is part of Life, we review, we plan, we implement and we move forward.
Success
This is now the most important step to cement the achievement of the Life Aim.
We review the Letter from the Future and write a new letter to yourself which describes how you actually achieved the Life Aim. Detail the steps you have taken, any problems experienced, your feelings of happiness or disappointment along the way and your current feeling now that the Life Aim has been achieved.
I also ask that you detail what lifestyle change if applicable you will make to maintain the Life Aim. It is important that you do not fall backwards into old territory and allow the achievement of the Life Aim to dissipate.
We take the opportunity to celebrate and recognize our achievement.
A review
Having reached this step you will have worked hard to meet many emotions, some new and others more familiar. We trust the journey has been both fulfilling and educational. The achievement of your Life Aim is a major milestone. If you have not yet taken the time to celebrate this achievement set a date and action now and do it.
It is important that we treat milestones with the respect they deserve. This allows us to reinforce our commitment to self. We also naturally feel emotions of happiness which generally accompany celebrations. This locks into our accessible memory our significant step and promotes forward action planning into the future.
After having completed your actions and achieved your Life Aim, you can utilize the spare pro forma worksheets we have included to introduce and start working on new Life Aims when desired.
Goal Model overview
We have included a summary flow chart illustrating the Life Coaching methodology being adopted. This chart provides you a quick review of actions and steps and can be referred to at any time during the process to help clarify past steps and steps to come.
We have also included a generalized list of Dos and Donts. This is also a guide to aid in the successful completion of your life aim.
MULTIMEDIA FREE EDUCATION VIDEOS
As part of this Free guide we have included online Multimedia which will self run through a series of lessons on Life Coaching. The multimedia is designed to give you the knowledge, skills and approach to be successful with your Self Coaching experience.
Here is the complete text version of the Life Coaching Multimedia CD for your reference and reading.
An introduction to Coaching.
Welcome to A Life Coaching Multimedia Education. In the beginning- Life provided the best coach of all - if you had time on your hands. Evolution! You can trust that all of lifes obstacles, achievements and problems were dependent and managed by Evolution. Now life seems a little more complex, and, few of us are prepared to wait for evolution to take its time. Each of us lives in our independent world, looking to evolve and experience our lives to the fullest.
Many individuals develop self life coaching skills due to the experiences in their life. Whether it be parental controls or support, education or circumstances, some people seem to have worked out how to get what they want, when they want it and be very happy. Well the good news is, we can all achieve this incredible knowledge and applying it successfully to our lives.
Is this important? The general consensus would be Yes. Let us understand why this is important.
Happiness is an essential human factor. Some of the initial requirements to establish happiness are; Shelter, food, clothing, relationship & health.
These may seem very straight forward elements, but, to many individuals some of these basic elements are unattainable. But happiness does not stop at the attainment of these initial elements alone. Life Coaching is able to help and support the achievement of these and other personal requirements.
Human psychology is complex, studies have shown us that after our personal initial elements are achieved our subconscious moves to the next level to find new elements to underpin our happiness, these could include, transportation, wealth, children, possessions, career etc.
This spiral of seeking new elements for ongoing happiness continues through our life and changes depending on our age and personal desires, beliefs and experiences.
Why do we process ongoing achievement in this way? It is evolution in play with your conscious and subconscious mind, looking at different levels of obtained happiness factors and the pursuit of new factors on varying levels to extend the happiness further. The human nature of striving to achieve a better life is all part of our evolution which will continue for millions of years into the future.
Believe it or not, there may come a time when you are happy with just what you have and what you have achieved. This is a state of mind you can claim when you are ready.
Lets review Success Coaching, some say its a new field, but realistically, life coaching has been around since the dawn of time.
Coaching & the individual
Life Coaching as a service is a relatively new discipline practiced by trained and experienced professionals. The function of a Life Coach is to aid or mentor an individual in the achievement of their goals, aims or aspirations.
This is accomplished through a thorough understanding of the individuals personal traits, needs and wants, then an understanding of the goal looking to be achieved, followed with the formulation of action plans, review processes and outcomes relating to the most effective means of achieving the individuals goal or goals.
A Coach is trained to provide support, mentoring and guidance through a formal process which is recognized for its effectiveness in helping individuals be the best that they can be. A Life Coach does not provide recommendations nor questions the motives of the individuals goals.
There are a number of different focus area's a Life Coach can provide, in addition to a number of different perspectives. These may include solution centric, holistic, spiritual or many others.
A Life Coaching is focused on a Solution Centric approach, this means we work with individuals to fully understand the required goal, and from a comprehensive understanding of the individuals capabilities we together develop a focal action plan to 'solve' the achievement of the goal.
A coaching solution plan may consist of many aspects, these include; a review process, filtering of knowledge to fully determine the goal, a measurable outcome and the steps in between. By implementing a tried and tested methodology, the ability for individuals to successfully achieve their goals with a Life Coach is dramatically improved.
As the Coaching Specialists, we believe Life Coaching is also about educating individuals to ensure ongoing achievement of goals in the future. We believe a good Life Coach will make his or her job redundant with each client. With A Life Coaching the client gains the necessary skills and knowledge from the Life Coach to apply Self Coaching principles when required. Naturally, A Life Coaching is always available to all clients to help at any time when required.
There are two distinct forms of life coaching:
SELF
BY A COACH
SELF COACHING
Let us first review Self Coaching, we strongly believe individuals with the ability to Self Coach will be better prepared to achieve their goals and ambitions and be able to reach them effectively now and in the future.
Self Coaching involves forming a dialogue with yourself which focuses on a set of guidelines taking you through a journey to get from step A (current life) to step B (new life with achieved goals). It is pertinent to say at this point that if, the Self Coaching is not done correctly then Self Coaching can also be a difficult and inaccurate form of achieving objectives.
An example is two individuals both with the same parents, schooling and experiences. One adopts Self Coaching and does not apply a successful process and finds goals are never achieved, he or she may come across road blocks which seem impassable, or, may lack the drive/motivation, the second adopting life coaching with a set of rules, process and external support and is seen to always achieve goals.
It is worth considering self coaching without diligence can be a futile exercise. A Life Coaching will ensure the proper methodology and diligence process is thoroughly adopted and completed throughout the journey. With a high level of support, motivation and guidance.
We are specialists in Self Coaching, our aim is to provide each individual with the steps, processes, focus and diligence to minimize the chances of failure and maximize the chances of success. Our primary goal is to provide you the skills to successfully Life Coach yourself now and in the future.
MENTORED COACHING
An individual can also adopt Coaching by a contracting a professional Coach if they have no interest in Self Coaching, we see this as an acceptable decision as all individuals differ in their personalities and objectives. By implementing the skills of a professional Life Coach the level of support, drive, review, understanding and consultation is controlled by the Life Coach. It must be noted that Life Coaches do not typically provide recommendations to problems as it is the individuals responsibility to determine the desired outcome. The Life Coach can guide and provide examples, but recommendations are not part of the delivered service.
We are of the opinion that a Solution focused approach to Life Coaching is the best approach to achieve a successful outcome. This approach focuses on developing a thorough and achievable solution rather than interrogating the problem.
By expending energy on developing a thorough action plan which is result oriented we ensure an effective goal achievement path.
ACTIONS
Before developing a solution, a good understanding of the problem, or requirement/aim, any limitations and boundaries must also be understood. The solution, or outcome, is developed from an understanding of the individuals preferences and expectations. The Life Coaching steps are developed by creating the actions, plans, reviews, support and time frame to achieve the desired outcome.
Why implement this process over others? The methodology for creating a solution centric life coaching plan are tried and tested. Life coaching studies and research has created a methodology which takes into account most individual idiosyncrasies, psychology, a review process to minimize failure and more. All working in tandem to increase the probability of success.
However, even though a tried and tested methodology is used, do not assume that hard and diligent work is not required. As in the achievement of all important facets of life, hard work, focus and care are all critical factors and must not be avoided.
Laziness achieves nothing. Remember, doing nothing will get you nowhere, FAST!
Having taken the first step to establish a new goal, plus, accepting that this goal or outcome is important enough to warrant the implementation of a Life Coach is a milestone. By taking these milestone steps you influence and take control of your destiny.
As with any human task, one of the most important elements which drives and supports us is the Motivation factor. Through maintaining your motivation you will also strive to complete tasks on time and to the best of your ability. Keeping your motivation going through the Coaching journey can be done by yourself, or through the assistance of a Coach.
We understand that through positive, unbiased and optimistic support any individual can be motivated to accomplish tasks which were once unachievable. This motivation leads to personal drive, when this drive is configured in conjunction with a detailed set of steps, plus a review process, you can be assured all actions are completed on schedule, thereby leading to planned goal achievement and total satisfaction.
MAIN COMPONENTS OF SUCCESS COACHING
So what are the main components of a Solution focused Life Coaching regime :
Understanding your self.
If
you have a goal, or a problem, you should first understand your true self to
ensure your path is met correctly. We encourage clients to detail their
current beliefs with regards to issues and pleasures in areas covering home
life, career, relationships, health and other key areas. With a better
understanding of yourself you can confidently decide on the goals or aims
you would like to achieve, and their relative priority.
The importance of understanding yourself is best described through this
example:
Bob wants to change his career as he dislikes his current job and manager. He is just looking to get out ASAP. First Bob must understand himself to determine a career path which will avoid this problem re-occurring. By not knowing himself, the likelihood of reoccurrence in a job he may not be satisfied with is high, and life coaching in this manner would be unsatisfactory.
Confrontation
Is your cup half full or half empty? What kind of thinker are you? Positive thinking with belief in your capabilities and an awareness that the universe is in sync with your goals is the best form of thinking.
The reasons are quiet clear, you are and become what you think. Your thinking predisposes you to actions and emotions which will drive certain outcomes. When your thinking is aligned with your goals, and a good level of self respect, then your conscious and subconscious actions will fulfill the goal you are striving for.
Maintaining a positive thinking mode can be difficult.
The aim for any positive thinking person is to eliminate negative thinking, this is accomplished by recognizing your thoughts, being aware of negativity and disregard those negative thoughts as quickly as possible. You will find many unwanted thoughts creeping up when you may least expect it. But with a strong level of positive thinking and being on alert, disregarding the negative thoughts can become easier with practice.
Know the Solution
The solution should be tangible and achievable, something you can easily describe and you can be assured will clearly meet the goal or objectives you have set. A solution which is imaginative or not measurable will be harder to achieve and may be open to interpretation. This does not mean that this kind of solution is inappropriate, but it is better to understand the difference and decide on a solution which you are happy with.
The Future
Through mental imagery you can imagine your future. This is a very powerful tool to help you achieve your desired outcome. Also, by activating the brain to recognize some of the steps required to achieve the future will better prepare you to fulfill the requirements to meet your future expectations.
The best way to accomplish this is by writing your self a letter from a predetermined date in the future. For example: 12 months from now. The letter to yourself would detail the achieved outcome, it will describe your feelings and also cover some of the key steps undertaken to reach the goal. It may also detail some of the hurdles and what you did to overcome them.
By writing yourself a letter from the future you also start to set a significant level of commitment to your endeavor.
Action Plans
Details of how you will achieve the desired outcome, including the steps you
will take, when, how long and what dependencies they may have. This is
similar to a flow chart process ensuring the actions follow on through to
completion. Each step is detailed, and, where possible measurable so as to
allow you to articulate where you are at any selected time.
Review Processes
Although we would all hope for smooth sailing through the development and achievement of our goals, the truth is that occasionally a particular plan may not be fulfilled, or a planned action is not completed. This is a normal part of completing a Life Coaching process and no individual should be disillusioned by not completing a particular task by a set date. All it takes is a review process to get you around the particular obstacle and back on the path to the solution.
Satisfactory completion
The measurable completion of the developed action plans and the acceptance that the outcome, solution, objective, aim or goal meets with the initial expectations. This is a time for celebration, all the hard work and planning has created the desired outcome.
These components and more are detailed in the - Self Coaching Pack, and include a comprehensive guide, pro forma achievement sheets, planning guide, review processes and much more. When undertaking direct Life Coaching such as Email, Phone or Face to Face the complete process is fulfilled by the Life Coach.
Key attributes
Through out the cycle of life coaching there are a number of key personal attributes which will enhance the journey and will also help you with the fulfillment of your plans. Some of these may seem to be common sense. But, a mind set with these traits are not always easily achieved.
1. Set in your mind a picture of the successful outcome from the start. Do not set yourself up for failure by thinking the goal is unattainable. We can call this a psychology of success.
2. Prepare yourself for hard and diligent work. Remove any laziness or procrastination thoughts and adopt an ethic of completing each task with no excuses.
3. Do not see any delays or possible failures as any more than part of the journey. That is, do not stop these from achieving your ultimate outcome. The A Life Coaching process will take you through these issues as normal occurrences and we will detail how to move on regardless.
4. Celebrate your achievements. Along the way you will achieve certain mile stones. Take the opportunity to recognize the fact of these achievements.
5. Re-apply your new skills to new opportunities. What you can or want to achieve in your life is only limited by your imagination.
Some people seem to have a way of always getting what they wanted, or, maybe they have learnt ways to implement the steps required to get what they want. Now with the help of A Life Coaching you can do the same!
If you have obtained this Free Self Life Coaching guide online we suggest you now continue with the enclosed reading material and progress through to the pro forma work sheets where you will commence the formal coaching process.
We hope you enjoyed this introduction to Life Coaching. Now lets go through the Free Life Coaching multimedia, followed by the Proforma worksheets.
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